How do I handle This Situation?

ur pretty much ******, sorry to say but with the military its hard to get things done, worse if you are not in the military (its nearly impossible) i mean as a spouse you are on the bottle of the very long list, but as an ex spouse, u pretty much dont exist.... the only thing i can offer is as write to your govnor and be sure to tell him what unit and company he is in and where he is stationed!